Men who truly amaze their part­ners in bed know a lit­tle secret: great sex doesn’t start in the bed­room. If you want to turn things up in the bed­room, then you need to set the stage in advance. And that means doing a lit­tle advance plan­ning and putting together an incred­i­ble expe­ri­ence she’s not going to forget.

First, you’ve got to be alone. Your part­ner may have sex in your bed­room with the door closed even when the kids are asleep in the next room but she’s not truly going to get into the moment when there’s a chance of wak­ing them up or hav­ing them walk in. So your first job is to sched­ule some alone time with her. And that doesn’t just mean you’ve got to leave the kids some­where else that also means friends, par­ents, co-workers, every­body who could inter­fere in what you’ve got planned have to be out of the pic­ture. If you’re think­ing it’s impos­si­ble, just imag­ine how amaz­ing the night is going to be with just the two of you alone enjoy­ing each other with more aban­don than you’ve ever imag­ined. I’m guess­ing you’ll find the moti­va­tion you need.

Sec­ond, cre­ate a roman­tic inter­lude for her. Women aren’t only seduced through their bod­ies. If you want to truly make all of her body come alive to your touch, then you have to start by turn­ing her on men­tally and that’s going to require a lit­tle romance.

Let’s look at two sce­nar­ios which could make the bed­room a much more fun place for the two of you tonight.

Idea #1

Start off by prepar­ing a fab­u­lous meal for her while she’s gone at work. If you’re not the world’s great­est cook, don’t worry. Cook what­ever you know how to make it’s not the meal itself but the idea of the meal that will work magic. Now when she’s on her way home, turn off all the lights and instead light a trail of can­dles which will lead her into the din­ing room. Have the table set with more can­dles. You can serve white or cham­pagne but avoid any hard liquor because alco­hol make release your inhab­i­ta­tions but it also damp­ens the per­for­mance for both part­ners and that’s def­i­nitely not how you want the evening to end.

Before you serve a deli­cious dessert, sneak up stairs and draw her a warm bub­ble bath. Sur­round the tub with lighted can­dles and lower the lights. Once she’s fin­ished eat­ing, lead her up the stairs and slowly undress her for the bath. Then give her a bath. Move slowly over her body, pay­ing par­tic­u­lar atten­tion to all of her eroge­nous zones. Don’t con­cen­trate too much on her breasts at first. Wait until she’s clearly get­ting excit­ing before you suds them or make your way between her thighs.

After the bath, towel her dry and start the fore­play. By now, she’s both men­tally and phys­i­cally pre­pared to enjoy a full evening of enjoy­ing your body as much as you were enjoy­ing hers.

Idea #2

If your part­ner is a lit­tle more adven­tur­ous, plan a roman­tic inter­lude that won’t end in the bed­room but some­where even more erotic. Make reser­va­tions at her favorite restau­rant and arrange to take her there as a sur­prise. Over din­ner, slip away to the bath­room then call her cell phone. When she answers, use your deep­est, sex­i­est voice to out­line all of the ways you want to plea­sure her for the evening. Be explicit. Women can be very eas­ily stim­u­lated this way because we have incred­i­bly vivid imag­i­na­tions, espe­cially of the men we’re sleep­ing with. Don’t think she has spent long hours pic­tur­ing the two of you in some pretty hot sit­u­a­tions before.

After din­ner, drive to some­where secluded. Have a CD play­ing that sets the mood you can either choose roman­tic bal­lads or some­thing a lit­tle sex­ier depend­ing on what helps turn her on the most. Now bring out your secret weapon: a battery-powered vibra­tor. Lean her seat back and slide the vibra­tor inside of her. All the while, whis­per in her ear about what you’ve still got in store for her. Pretty soon, she’ll be prac­ti­cally (and maybe lit­er­ally) beg­ging you to come inside of her.

And that’s the moment you do exactly what she asks. If you can’t get com­fort­able in the car, get a room at the clos­est motel you can find and spend the rest of the night find­ing out just how many orgasms you’re both capa­ble of having.

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